Being a Mother To Children On Both Sides Of Heaven


Being a Mother To Children On Both Sides Of Heaven

As young moms with school-aged children and younger, we are torn between parenting and loving those who are here on Earth and wishing we could parent our children who are no longer here. When you have children in Heaven, your heart aches in their absence. We will forever feel like a piece of us is missing. Every day is a constant battle of the wills as we long for the one not with us yet wholeheartedly love our other children equally. We see our missed children in their siblings’ faces, a familiar laughter echoing off the walls that were once theirs, and are constantly bombarded with memories of the same joyful play. Yes, we love our children here on this side of Heaven, but oh how we wish we could be in both places sometimes.

In this episode we, Kristina and Steffanie, get real about what it is like to parent children on both sides of heaven. We share our experiences of teaching our younger children that never got to meet their older brothers about them and finding ways to help them cope with their own grief as we navigate through our own as well.

If you are a mom with children on both sides, we hope this brings you comfort knowing that you are not alone.

In what ways has parenting changed for you? 

Poem:

Two Places at Once

By Angela Miller - A Bed For My Heart 


I will forever wish

I could be in two places at once. 

Mothering a child 

Who is no longer

Here

And mothering my children

Who are ---

Is a constant balancing act,

The infinite art of

Embracing both/and.


I am here, 

And I am there. 

I am learning how

To be

Two places

At once.


Article: We Are Mothers Forever, Even When Our Children Are in Heaven

-Sunflowers & Red Feathers

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