Sunflowers & Red Feathers

The Grief Timeline In this episode of Sunflowers & Red Feathers, we discussed a question from our weekly Q&A that we felt needed more than a simple two-sentence answer.  "When will this pain in my heart soften?" The answer is that it will soften but not on any scientific timeline. The simple answer is that there is no timeline for grief, nor should there be an expected one. Nothing about child loss is normal and "grieving" the way we are taught in school to grieve is a very different ballgame when it's grief from child loss.  The reality is that the pain will ease with time but you never truly move on after losing your child. You become a different person. There is hope though and if you look for joy, you will find it! That's what we hope to bring to you! Until next week, -Sunflowers & Red Feathers Check out our  flowpage  to see how you can #watchreadlisten to our episodes!

Finding Your New Tribe When grief is so fresh, it is consuming. Everything about your life has been put on hold. Your relationships are no exception. Friends don’t understand why aren’t the same person. Family doesn’t get why you don’t want to show up to holiday gatherings or parties anymore. However, you don’t have to be alone in your grief. We have found that there is no greater bond than the one you will find with other bereaved parents. Your hearts and ours know the same overwhelming loss and how heavy that burden is to carry throughout life. Allow us to help you to carry your burden. Use these resources to help you find your tribe. And, of course, you are welcome to join ours.  If you are looking for a place to start or wanting to help support a grieving parent, the website, LoveToKnow.com has a great list to begin with called “ Best Places to Find Grief Support for Parents ". For us, Kristina and Steffanie, our local chapter of The Compassionate Friends has been a wonderful

  Ways to Honor Your Child For most parents, finding ways to remember and honor your child is incredibly important to you. Your biggest fear could be that your child will be forgotten and it will be completely up to you to keep their memory alive.  One of my favorite movies is Coco. The idea that your loved one never ceases to exist as long as they are remembered is such a comforting thing. Naturally, you do what you can and come up with ways that keep their memory alive for you.  Here is a list of ideas that may be helpful for you if you are new to this journey or even if you are a friend supporting a parent on their journey 9 Ways to Honor Your Child Write a poem, sing a song, or start a blog in memory of your child. We at Sunflowers & Red Feathers know all about this one. That is a big reason we do what we do! We keep our boys' memories alive by sharing them with you and helping others along the way! If you are parenting a child who came after the one who died the book  &quo

  Yellow & Red Boutique on Etsy We are so happy to announce that our Etsy shop, Yellow & Red Boutique, is NOW OPEN! Take a look at our items. Purchase items for yourself or someone you love who is in the midst of grief. All products are designed, made, and shipped by us, Kristina and Steffanie, the founders of Sunflowers & Red Feathers.  Always In My Heart T-Shirt This customizable t-shirt is a great way to carry your child’s name around with you wherever you go. The secret inscription allows for you to have their name close without people knowing it’s even there. Choose your favorite or significant color for your t-shirt. If you do not see the color you want, please message me for other options. Any other customization is available upon request. I’d be happy to accommodate you in any way that I can! https://www.etsy.com/listing/883205018/always-in-my-heart-child-loss-secret?ref=shop_home_active_1 Grief Blend Essential Oil Roller      How It Can Help You In Your Grief: Marj

TCF Boise Live Video Series  November 2020 Thanksgiving can be a very difficult holiday while you are grieving. How can you be thankful while your heart is broken? Here are our thoughts on how to get through the Day of Thanks while still acknowledging your feelings. Focusing on having balanced outlooks- we can be upset and we can grieve what is missing but we can also find things to be grateful for. Our outlook on life impacts everything. If we only focus on the negative, we cultivate more negativity. When we think of the things we are grateful for we allow positivity to flow. Encourage making a list before the holiday of things you are grateful for so you are not caught off guard if asked by someone. Make a challenge to start a gratitude journal to write something you are grateful for every day all year long. Find more resources on our website: http://www.tcfboise.org/resources Reach out to us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TCFSouthernIdaho