Finding Your New Tribe

When grief is so fresh, it is consuming. Everything about your life has been put on hold. Your relationships are no exception. Friends don’t understand why aren’t the same person. Family doesn’t get why you don’t want to show up to holiday gatherings or parties anymore. However, you don’t have to be alone in your grief. We have found that there is no greater bond than the one you will find with other bereaved parents. Your hearts and ours know the same overwhelming loss and how heavy that burden is to carry throughout life. Allow us to help you to carry your burden. Use these resources to help you find your tribe. And, of course, you are welcome to join ours. 

If you are looking for a place to start or wanting to help support a grieving parent, the website, LoveToKnow.com has a great list to begin with called “Best Places to Find Grief Support for Parents".

For us, Kristina and Steffanie, our local chapter of The Compassionate Friends has been a wonderful outlet.

They can be found nationwide with hundreds of chapters. There is something beautiful about the kinds of friendships you can gain

while attending a support group with others that have experienced loss. When we say that

bereaved parents share an unspeakable bond, it is so very true.

One quote that has become especially meaningful is from an article that we have both read multiple times called “7 Things I’ve Learned Since The Loss Of My Child” from another bereaved mother:

“In my seven years navigating the world as a bereaved parent, I am continually struck by the power of the bond between bereaved parents. Strangers become kindreds in mere seconds - a look, a glance, a knowing of the heart connect us, even if we’ve never met before. No matter our circumstances, who we are, or how different we are, there is no greater bond than the connection between parents who understand the agony of enduring the death of a child. It’s a pain we suffer for a lifetime, and unfortunately, only those who have walked the path of child loss understand the depth and breadth of the pain and the love we carry.” 

There is beauty in finding people like us, that know our pain and can offer support even in the midst of our unimaginable pain.

The Compassionate Friends reminds us that we need not walk alone and we echo that statement. We do not need to walk alone in this heartbreaking journey. We can find our new tribe, be who we are in our changed state, and find the joy and hope that still surrounds us all - together.

-Sunflowers & Red Feathers

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